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Raising Our Future Generations: (Part 1) A Great Responsibility |
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By Shaikh Younus Kathrada No doubt, as concerned parents, we are all worried about how our kids will turn out. More and more I have parents coming and asking for tips on raising their children. In the next few articles, we will speak about some important issues regarding the raising of our children. Inshaa Allaah, we’ll try to be as practical as possible, but bear in mind that as parents we need to be willing to admit to our shortcomings and not discount that which is “inconvenient” as being impractical. I am writing as a parent who faces the same challenges as all of you. I too am living in the West (and as a matter of fact was raised here) so it’s not as though I am “out of touch” with what is really out there. |
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Our Parents: Our Masters
These are collected from as-Samarqandi’s ‘Tambih al-Ghafilin’ (p. 84-91): From the chapter on the rights of the parents: 1 - Ibn ‘Abbas said: “There is not a single believer who has two parents and wakes up while he is good to them except that Allah opens up for him two gates to Paradise, and if he makes one of them angry, Allah will not be Pleased with him until that parent becomes pleased with him again.” It was asked: “Even if that parent was oppressive and in the wrong?” It was replied: “Yes, even so. And he never wakes up while he is bad to them except that Allah opens up for him two gates to Hell.” |
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Golden Principles of Raising Children |
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BY Imam Abu Hamid Muhammad Al-Ghazali Imam Ghazali (May God Shower His Mercy Upon Him)’s Arabic Book on the Subject from His Three-Volumes Collection of Short Books "Majmu’a Rasail Imam Ghazali" Translated into English By Irfan Hasan From the Urdu Translation of the Book TRANSLATOR’S NOTE: The English translator has added all explanations given within square brackets and parenthesis and assumes all responsibilities for any mistranslations and seeks Allah’s forgiveness for that. All text in Arabic has been transliterated into English and has been italicized. Urdu translation of this book of Imam Ghazali was done by Sadruddin Hasan Amritsari and published by Dar-ul Isha’at, Pakistan. Amritsari’s Urdu translation was utilized for doing this English translation. |
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Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari
I'm completely against watching TV due to the content shown, my wife also agrees with this principle Alhumdulillah but we fear how our attitude to TV could make our children rebel against us as it is considered the "norm" in society hence when my children do go to nursery, school, even the hospital, they will see the TV.
When we go to my parents house then there is also a TV and my son ends up watching the TV for hours on end. I have already spoken to my parents to not allow my children watch the TV but my wishes are not respected. Even to the extent that once my mother quickly switched off the TV because my mother realised that I was comming downstairs, this was witnessed by my wife. My parents have even made du'a against me saying that watch how your children treat you when they get old, they will make you cry only because I moved my wife out of the house as there was fitnah when we used to live together in my parents' house. |
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