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Marriage Tips (Part I)

Divorce has become the order of the day because we as Muslim fail to follow the beautiful life of our beloved Prophtet Sallalahu Alaihi Wasallam. Below are listed a few tips for us as husbands to implement in our lives to assist the improvment of our relationships with our wives. May Allah make it easy for us to practice upon this:

1. Keep your gazes lowered. Avoid looking at strange women. Not only will this improve your marriage but Allah will let you taste the sweetness of Imaan.

2. Perform your Fajr sunnats at home and the Fard in the Masjid with Jamaat. According to Hadeeth this increases the loves betwenn husband and wife.

3. Eat from one plate and place a morsel of food in your wife's mouth.

4. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dredd up for her too. Remember Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam that would always start with miswaak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

5. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam had nick names for his wives, the ones they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

6. Dont treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Dont treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

7. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives. Its a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

8. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadeeth when Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam would kiss his wife before leaving for Salaah, even though he was fasting.

9. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house, she makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare and sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Dont let that be; thank her!

10. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You dont have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

11. Dont belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah Radiallahu Anha was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

12. Be humorous and play games with you wife. Look at how Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam would race his wife. Aisha Radiallahu Anha is the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

13. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best and I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!

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Bee said:

	Wow!!!!! I am amazed at this beautiful article. Imagin this was the man you lived your life with everyday... I am Honestly moved to tears...
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August 09, 2008
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Amiena Ajam said:

	although there are a few spelling mistakes and punctuation, this article very beautiful, touching...one day, i too shall have this...shukr for the article.
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August 11, 2008
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Muhammad Riaz said:

	this article is really a eye opener ,plz keep guiding us
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September 18, 2008
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Thaabit said:

	i hope i can keep this story in my mind all the time so that i may stay on track and realize what i have.
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September 18, 2008
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Tasneem said:

	mashAllaah, may Allaah guide us all upon d right path & make us all good husbands/wifes, ameen
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September 19, 2008
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nawaal said:

	Very true and beautifully put. Sometimes we all have to remember that life is for being kind to all that come into contact with us .....
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